BULLYING WHAT’S IT ALL ABOUT?

RAISE YOUR HAND IF YOU HAVE EVER BULLIED SOMEONE.

WHAT IS A BULLY?

A PERSON USING BULLY BEHAVIOR IS SOMEONE WHO HURTS SOMEONE ELSE BY INTENTIONALLY PUSHING OR HITTING. I’LL SHOW YOU!

A PERSON USING BULLY BEHAVIOR IS SOMEONE WHO THREATENS YOU WITH A FIST IN YOUR FACE.

A PERSON USING BULLY BEHAVIOR IS SOMEONE WHO TEASES WITH MEAN WORDS. YOU PLAY SOCCER LIKE A SISSY!

A PERSON USING BULLY BEHAVIOR IS SOMEONE WHO JOINS IN THE LAUGHING WHEN SOMEONE ELSE TEASES.

A PERSON USING BULLY BEHAVIOR IS SOMEONE WHO MAKES A POINT NOT TO LET YOU SIT WITH THEM AT LUNCH.

A PERSON USING BULLY BEHAVIOR IS SOMEONE WHO EXCLUDES OTHERS FROM THEIR GROUP OR ACTIVITY.

A PERSON USING BULLY BEHAVIOR IS SOMEONE WHO HURTS YOUR FEELINGS ON PURPOSE BY ROLLING THEIR EYES AT YOU.

A PERSON USING BULLY BEHAVIOR IS SOMEONE WHO USES THEIR POPULARITY TO BOSS OTHERS AROUND, TELLING OTHERS WHAT THEY SHOULD OR SHOULDN’T DO. Don’t talk to her, she smells and has ugly hair!

A PERSON USING BULLY BEHAVIOR IS SOMEONE WHO SPEADS BAD RUMORS ABOUT OTHERS.

A PERSON USING BULLY BEHAVIOR IS SOMEONE WHO GOSSIPS OR REPEATS BAD RUMORS ABOUT OTHERS.

RAISE YOUR HAND NOW IF YOU THINK YOU HAVE EVER USED BULLY BEHAVIOR.

IT’S NOT OKAY TO: Push, hit, hurt others physically, threaten, intimidate. AND IT’S ALSO NOT OKAY TO: Tease in a hurtful way Join in laughing when someone else is making fun of someone Exclude others from the group or activities Roll our eyes intending to hurt Boss our friends, telling them what they can or cannot do Control and manipulate others Spread rumors about others

DEFINITION: BULLYING is a pattern of repeated behavior that is meant to hurt someone (physically, emotionally, or socially) and usually has an imbalance of power (physical or social).

DID THE PICTURES WE LOOKED AT A MOMENT AGO STIR UP ANY THOUGHTS OF?  Oh…I’ve acted like that before…  Yeah…that’s happened to me before.  I saw that happening to someone else.

3 ROLES IN A BULLYING SITUATION  The Aggressor is the one doing the Bully Behavior.  The Target or Victim is the person being bullied.  The Bystander is the person watching/seeing the bullying happen.

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU ARE THE BYSTANDER: (Choosing to ignore the bullying is the same as supporting the behavior) 1. Refuse to be an audience for the bullying incident 2. If appropriate and safe, ask the bully to stop (Use words like, “Knock it off!” or “Cut it out!”) 3. Be a friend to the victim, invite them to talk with you (Say, “Come play on our team.” or “Can I sit with you at lunch?”) 4. Support the victim – write the victim a note or tell him/her that you don’t agree wit the bully 5. Tell an adult (There is a difference between TATTLING and TELLING: The IN/OUT Rule) IN/OUT Rule: If something is wrong and you are trying to get someone OUT of trouble then you need to tell, but if you are trying to get someone IN trouble then don’t tell – that’s tattling.

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU HAVE BULLY BEHAVIOR: 1. Realize and identify the problem behavior. 2. Acknowledge that you need to change the behavior. 3. Apologize for the negative behavior. 4. Use the Bully Behavior Change Worksheet. 5. Use your conflict management skills to handle the problem. 6. Increase your empathy and concern for others. 7. Use your leadership skills to help rather than hurt.

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU ARE THE TARGET… SO YOU DON’T BECOME THE VICTIM 1. Use your assertive skills to tell the person to stop. 2. Don’t believe the bully – the bully only has the power if you give it. 3. Value yourself. 4. Report bullying incidents that are harmful, dangerous, or destructive. 5. Find safe places and people. 6. Make new friends and try new activities.

YOU CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN OUR SCHOOL, OUR COMMUNITY, OUR WORLD. YOU CAN HELP BY:  Reviewing you own behavior (if there is bullying behavior then change it).  Not allowing yourself to be a victim of bullying behavior.  Helping when you see a bullying problem.